Frank hosts haibuns for first dVerse prompt of new year…
Covenant promises were broken and son’s family torn apart by unwanted divorce. Our extended family suffers open wound of missing member, like amputation of limb. Love betrayed, life upended, dreams died. No wonder God hates divorce. It wasn’t His plan.
We witness son’s pain and his own sad choices. Too many words, not enough action. Bitterness and resentment move in like unwelcome squatters. Children confused by chaos that’s no fault of their own but caused by adults not adulting.
Difficult emotional journey for all. Loyalties forced to change. Lifestyles rearranged. The mother of our grandchildren remarries; estranged and stranger to us. Doors closed and locked. Yet, we love our grands…hope new family succeeds?!
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leave the past behind
beautiful wedding photo
how must i forgive?
a poem in my pocket 
Jan 07, 2026 @ 11:17:44
Powerful haibun, Lynn! I divorced when my son was two years old. I did not want to raise him in that toxic environment. Except for my father-in-law, my ex’s family cut all connection with me because of the lies my ex told them. I raised my son to love both his families. I don’t regret my choice because my son is a well-adjusted, kind, and caring young man now. Sometimes, divorce is the best option.
I’m sorry your family has been cut out. I would never have cut my ex’s family out of his life. They chose to alienate themselves, and they lost a wonderful relationship with my son because of their choices. I hope your family finds a way to connect with the children. Perhaps she will soften with the new marriage.
Jan 06, 2026 @ 22:54:29
Indeed, a tortured time for all concerned. (I speak from experience.)
Jan 06, 2026 @ 13:37:42
Lynn, I’m sorry your family is going through such adjustment and discomfort. The kids always are the innocent ones who suffer most.
Jan 06, 2026 @ 08:27:54
A very sad and emotional reality for all. So sad when families split up. Children often suffer from misunderstanding! Remarriage… the final epiphany!